What Almost Buying Birkenstocks Taught Me About Staying True to Yourself
I'm not gonna lie: I've been doing quite a bit of shopping this spring. Part of it is due to my body changing. I feel like I'll probably get into it in a future post but I've gained weight and things fit differently. I'm not dieting and working out like when I was in "wedding season" (my own and being in and going to other people's weddings). Most days I'm okay with it and I'm just working on being healthy.
The other part of my shopping is finally nailing down a personal style that makes me feel amazing. It's a bit embarrassing to admit that, as a sort of "style blogger", I haven't always been 100 percent sure about my style.
Figuring out my style is equal parts experimentation and finding inspiration. There is no shortage of inspiration around the internet these days. Instagram, Pinterest, blogs, there is so much out there. Personally, I'm in love with color, color, and more color!
But the road to finding a style that works for and makes me feel confident wasn't easy. So, if you're struggling to figure out how to shop for yourself and find things that make you happy and confident, may I present you with the story of how I almost bought a pair of Birkenstock sandals.
top: primark, shorts: j.crew factory, sandals: sam edelman, necklace: charming charlie, sunglasses: primark
I always thought Birkenstocks were god awful shoes. We lovingly referred to them as "jesus shoes" at my Catholic high school. The weird opposite side to my preppy conservative town was a very hippie dippie side so there was even a Birkenstock store. It's now sadly closed.
I hated Birkenstock sandals. In my mind, they were ugly. And then they became the in shoe showing up all over my Instagram feed.
At first I was like, no, I don't like those shoes! Then slowly I started to think that maybe I needed them too. Everyone is wearing them so they can't be so bad, right? I was so close to buying a pair of rose gold Birkenstocks at DSW.
I was at the point in my style journey that I knew I loved things colorful, bright, and fun. When I put the Birkenstocks on my feet, they didn't feel fun. They didn't make me happy. Maybe I felt like I fit in, but I only felt like yup, this just isn't my style. It was a really good feeling. And subsequently I found these pink, big bowed slides and it was love at first sight.
Putting back the Birkenstocks reminded me why it's so important to stay true to yourself
More than ever before, we're being influenced. It can sometimes be really hard to separate influence from inspiration, and this is case in point. If you don't stick to a style that feels like you, you'll end up with a closet full of items that only kinda feel like you.
Staying true to yourself in your style means evaluating what you truly love.
Browse photos but don't get caught up in what everyone is wearing at the moment. If you know anything about fashion, it's fickle. Style is actually made up of choices that feel personal. That's why I love Leandra Medine and the whole Man Repeller community. They show you that your style doesn't have to be conventional but you should really love it.
I'll say it once, I'll say it a million times: wear what makes you happy.
If you like black, wear all black. If you're actually a Birkenstock lover, there are some cute sandals on sale right now.
If you find joy in your outfit, it will radiate. You will look and feel more confident. Some people will say that clothes are just clothes. But they can be powerful in making you feel like the best version of yourself. And yes, even if it means wearing Birkenstocks.